It’s Ok Not To Be Ok

So for the past few hours I’ve been contemplating on writing this….

I know alot of people have been hit hard with the recent episodes of Coronation Street with the suicide storyline. I felt the need to write something to address mental health as it is so very close to my heart.

I have had family and friends feeling suicidal and to think that it could have easily have ended in such a way that was portrayed on the tv breaks my heart.

What’s even more heart felt is the way everyone reacted in different ways to the news….you just really don’t know what’s truly going on in someone’s head.

Now let me tell you something, I have been in a dark place in my 20s. I have been at a stage where I have thought ‘what is the point in life’. Everyone puts you under so much pressure to fit in with ‘the norm’ – bf/gf/marriage/having kids, but these people don’t think about the harm they are doing to people’s self esteem and how it affects them mentally.

To everyone around you, you are laughing and joking – acting how they expect I suppose – when inside you are paddling so fast trying to keep your head above water.

I have never spoken about this and I have had any comments about ‘you don’t know unless you have been there!’ Well guess what, I have been there and I have got out of the other side πŸ’œ

It hasn’t been easy and I do still have my off days but do you know what, talking to people that will listen really does help.

I am putting it out there to everyone who is struggling with some form of mental illness, if you need someone to talk to, my inbox is always open πŸ’œ

Working on yourself really does help πŸ’ͺ

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What does a scent mean to you?

Everyone has a scent they love. Something that reminds them of a happy time, favourite holiday, occasion etc.

All fragrances have a story behind them and these brand new scents are no exception.

Younique fragrances are named after love letters between co-founder Melanie and her then boyfriend, now husband.

We all remember the typical love letters we would write to people we liked – spritz with a bit of fragrance to make the letter smell of you…..that’s exactly the story behind these.

Each scent is named after a sign off for a letter:

Dreaming of You, Me x

Passionately Yours, Me x

Yours and Only Yours, Me x

All the scents are so unique to each other and there is definitely something for everyone.

Currently we have a woody scent, an oriental scent and a fresh scent.

I’m not going to go into detail on all the individual scents, but I will talk a little bit about my favourite scent, Dreaming Of You, Me.

Growing up so close to the seaside, I have very fond memories of spending time down there, building sandcastles, eating ice creams from the ice cream van and having walks on the sand. There’s something so peaceful listening to the waves crashing on the rocks and watching the sea – I could watch it all day.

When I met my now partner, our first holiday was on a cruise – something I had always wanted to do. Being out at sea and seeing different countries was so special. From this very moment, we made it ‘our thing’ to go on a cruise for our annual holiday. We had so many amazing cruises and I am so very grateful for those memories.

Then we had our daughter and as you can imagine, our money went on her instead of luxury holidays.

For me, ‘Dreaming Of You’ is such a fresh scent and reminds me of being close to the sea. Nothing but clean fresh air surrounding you and so calming.

One day, we will experience this with our daughter and we can tell her about all the amazing cities we have visited; maybe she will love the tranquility of being at sea too – and maybe see a few dolphins at the same time! πŸ‹πŸ¬

Let me know what your favourite scent is in the comments and if it reminds you of anything πŸ’œπŸ’œ

The Power of Makeup

I’ve been having fun, playing around with make-up today and realised just how important it is for many women.

For alot of women, it gives them the confidence to be the person they want to be; it allows them to express themselves how they want.

Beauty is most definite on the inside, but for many women, they struggle to see themselves as beautiful. Makeup is used to enhance the beauty that is already there and for some women it’s their way to feel empowered.

Before I did this as a career, I struggled with the person I was. I thought I wasn’t pretty let alone beautiful. I quickly learnt that I wasn’t alone.

It wasn’t until I started working on me as a person that I realised it was all down to the fact I had no self belief. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough to do what I wanted to do – not clever enough, not a strong person.

You have to start to believe in yourself. You can do anything you want to do. Don’t listen to people around you, saying you can’t do things. You have to remind yourself that this is your life, not theirs. If you don’t try, how will you know if what you want to do is really for you?

Whatever your thing is, believe that you can do it and you are already going in the right direction πŸ’–

From the day you are born, you don’t know the path of life you are going to take – no one does. Life has ups and down, it’s upto you to decide on the paths you go down. There will be challenges along the way, but one things for sure, if you stay true to yourself, the path you do choose is right for you πŸ’ͺ because it’s your choice, not someone else’s.

Let me know below what your dream would be? Write it down and go get that dream πŸ’ͺ

Happy International Women’s Day

The 8th March International Women’s Day ❀

For me this is about embracing womanhood.

No two women are the same, we all have our flaws and our strengths. When women get together, something amazing happens. We unite together because we show support for one another.

Being a woman is difficult at times. Society judges us for everything we do and say…..women in the public eye are always criticised for how they look, who they are pictured with etc…..but what about what’s going on mentally for them?

Who writes about how strong these women are being after going through difficult times? being there for their kids? Coping with loss? Instead it’s always what they look like, what they are wearing etc.

It’s time we embraced other people’s individuality and supported each other matter what they look like, fashion, makeup, etc.

Since joining Younique, I have learnt so much about myself. I used to be shy and withdrawn. Would freak out if someone spoke to me because, well why would anyone want to speak to me when they have plenty of other people to talk to?

I learnt that it’s ok to be yourself. Being yourself is what makes you unique and attractive to others. If they want to judge, let them! It says more about them than it does about you ❀

I have so many more friendships now than I have ever had before. Why? Because these women are in the same position as me. They are starting to believe in themselves and being on a similar journey with these women is so empowering. We help each other through the bad times and no matter what the problem is, there’s always someone to talk to. It’s a sisterhood like no other and it has totally changed my outlook on life.

Today I have celebrated how amazing women are. Individually we have been through so much heartache, stress, anxiety, depression etc but together we stand United and find that strength that, yes, we can do anything we want, overcome any issues we have and achieve our dreams.

So to all my Y Sisters, film and friends, may we achieve our dreams and continue to support each other ❀

My Journey So Far….

Today, I thought I would do a trip down memory lane and boy is it a long lane!

I joined Younique 3 years ago. Since then I have changed so much and alot has happened.

This is a picture of 1000 words.

The picture on the left shows someone who had zero confidence in herself, would worry about what others thought of her and didn’t know what path her life was going to go down.

The picture on the right was taken today. It shows someone who has taken the decision to be herself. She no longer worries about what people think of her and is not afraid to stand up for herself.

I am no where near done, but I am alot further than I was. I have had ups and downs in those 3 years. I believe things are sent to test you and I am stronger than I ever imagined.

Alot of people would say, well that’s just life. But I can honestly say, without the level of self development we have, I would have struggled.

No matter how long it takes me, I am changing for the better. My confidence is getting stronger and I am now believing in myself.

The person on the left would never have gone on facebook live and showed people how to put makeup on.

The person on the right is not a qualified makeup artist but enjoys going live, showing women that you don’t have to have a knowledge of how to put makeup on to do what I do. It’s about being able to express yourself however you want, we don’t judge, we want people to accept others the way they are.

The reason why I love this opportunity so much is because anyone can do it. Whether you are a new mum, someone who really doesn’t know what they want to do with their life or someone who just wants a new hobby……its literally for anyone.

So what do the next 3 years hold? I have no idea! Who knows what the answer to that is right?! All I do know is I am not stopping, I am going to continue to climb to the top and work on myself until I achieve what I can.

The future is bright and I can’t wait to see where I am in 2020

Feeling Grateful

Since I last blogged properly, alot has happened in my life, especially the last few months.

In the space of 2 months, I lost both my aunty and my nanna. Both of them where a massive part of my life, in particular my childhood – if i wasnt at home, I was in their homes.

It had been a fair few years since I last saw my aunty when she passed but I am so very grateful for the memories I have of her growing up. My aunty and my dad where the best of friends and we would always see my nan, grandad, aunty, uncle and my 2 cousins on a regular basis. What particularly stands out for me was the amazing roast dinners my aunty cooked and she always had homemade mince pies in the cake tin – I think thats where I get my love of making them from! We also loved putting the music on and having a dance in her living room…..she was an amazing lady and will be truely missed. Love you Mary xxxx

As for my nan, well she along with my grandad helped bring up my brother and myself, along with our parents of course. When our parents where both working, we spent our time in their house. Again my favourite memories involved food – we would always have sausages, mash, peas and gravy followed my int choc chip ice cream! (Theres a pattern here hahaha! No wonder I love food!) They would take us on holidays in the caravan and also abroad to Yugoslavia – we went there every year until is wasnt safe to go no more.

Im so very grateful for these memories, along with plenty others. They are the things you remember and stay in your mind. No one can take those memories.

Even though it will be hard to think of them not being here this Christmas – they both loved this time of year – I will rmember the happy times and smile, because I am lucky to have those memories.

What made me write this post?

My dad, as some of you know, is in remission from cancer. He got all upset yesterday watching my daughter play with her toys she got for her birthday. Why I hear you ask? He said he didn’t think he would get the opportunity to meet her, let alone witness her play with all her toys, talking, learning her numbers and alphabet etc. It made me realise just how important the little things are in life as you get older.

When we are young, we want the latest computer console, music system, bike, fashionable clothes…..but when you get older, all you simply want is to make these memories with family and friends. Memories last forever, thats what everyone remembers.

This Christmas, if theres someone in your family you have in your phonebook who you havnt spoken to in a while, give them a call, a text or even a Christmas card. Make that contact with them, you never know whats round the corner and go into 2018 with a clear conscience. Theres so much more important things in life whan materialistic objects.

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Guess Who’s Back!!

I know, I know!

It’s been a while since I have posted in my blog. Time to up my game and start blogging once again.

I have missed it so much and I have finally decided to just go for it!

In my blog, I will be posting all about my life, but also my business ventures – Younique and Darcey candles – literally every females favourite things, makeup, skincare and candles.

I would love your support, simply by joining my VIP groups. Lots of offers coming in the new year and tips and tricks….

Come join in the fun!

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Thankyou so much for your support and let’s get 2018 off to a flying start 😘